Popular Nigerian author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has advised young women to be deliberate and thoughtful when selecting a life partner, cautioning against rushing into marriage due to desperation or societal expectations.
Speaking at a recent event for students, the 47-year-old celebrated writer highlighted the significant impact that such a decision can have on one’s life. She emphasized the necessity of choosing a partner who is kind and supportive.
Adichie noted, “It’s really important who you choose. It’s really important. Young women, choose wisely.” She acknowledged that sometimes young women recognize that their partner may not be ideal but feel pressured by a strong desire to marry or to have a companion.
She urged caution, saying, “You’re desperate to have somebody who’s your partner. Don’t settle. Be very careful who you choose.” According to her, the right choice in a life partner can profoundly influence one’s happiness and well-being.
Adichie on Love, Family, and Reclaiming Her Identity
Reflecting on her own experience, Adichie shared, “If you choose somebody who’s kind, supportive, it will make all the difference. So I can tell you that I chose well, there are some good men left.”
The acclaimed author of novels such as Half of a Yellow Sun and Americanah has been married to Nigerian doctor Ivara Esege since 2009. The couple is parents to three children: a daughter and twin boys.
Adichie’s remarks also coincide with her recent public discussion about reclaiming her cultural identity by embracing her Igbo name, “Chimamanda,” after previously feeling disconnected from her original name.
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